So, after what seemed like an eternity, you finally received your posting message… You might be experiencing mixed feelings, such as excitement about being reunited with the familiar, and a sense of anticipated grief of the life you had here in Europe. You might have already started disengaging with your life here, and projecting yourself joyfully in the life you’re about the lead back in Canada.
Many people underestimate the challenge of returning to Canada, expecting to slip into their new lives with ease, and find themselves surprised when frustration and irritability show up along with a sense of disorientation. Don’t worry, this is common, and pretty normal!
To minimize the shock of re-entry, it’s a good idea to plan ahead. Here are some strategies that can help:
Plan your goodbyes to the people, places (and food…) you love, tie up loose ends before leaving. Think of a meaningful ritual to mark the end of your OUTCAN ritual.
Research your destination and plan ahead.
Create a to-do list and delegate tasks between family members.
Be kind with yourself and with your family members. It may be particularly hard for kids and teens to think about leaving their friends behind. Try to be present for them and take time to allow them to express what they might be going through. Allow children to be part of the planning in an age-appropriate way.
Remind yourself that you’ve all been through transitions in the past, and that you’ve grown through these challenges.
And lastly: you don’t need to go through this alone. Reach out to your MFRC when you arrive, and connect with the local resources.
You’ve got this! Safe travels and good luck on your journey back home.